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D&D Blog Hop: Day 14

Written by Darkwarren - Published on February 14, 2014

dnd40hopbadgeDay 14: Did you meet your significant other while playing D&D? Does he or she still play? (Or just post a randomly generated monster in protest of Valentine’s Day).

No. My wife does not play. In fact, I hid my hobby from her for a while during our dating years. Not only did I hide it, I intentionally lied about it. We were dating for more than a year at this point but for some reason I was ashamed of my roleplaying. Since I hadn’t played D&D at the table for years, I guess I immediately became that awkward teenager again and thought that it was too geeky/nerdy for anyone I was romantically interested in to appreciate let alone accept. I told her that I had meetings Thursday nights. I had just graduated from college and was living at my parents’ house as well – I lied to them too.

Eventually I felt more ashamed about lying over something so trivial – I was an adult, why am I acting like a teenager? When I eventually told her the truth she was rightfully upset and disappointed. “Why would you think that I care that you want to play Dungeons and Dragons?” she asked. “I don’t know… I just did.” I responded. She didn’t care about the roleplaying, but she did care about the lying.

Fast-forward to today and we have now hosted my weekly gaming group in our home for years. Since my shameful admission we have since gotten married and have three amazing sons. She rolls her eyes every time one of my young sons asks to play. But it’s all in jest. The love of reading, math skills, creativity, problem-solving, and bonding that roleplaying offers she understands and appreciates. The guys of my gaming group are like uncles to my kids, some of my best friends, and our families spend time together. In hindsight I’m not sure why I initially lied to her and my parents about returning to the hobby. I knew that the popular kids in high school weren’t roleplayers, and I got jibed for it. Now I embrace it and we started joking about weekly “Nerd Night”. Now it’s “Game Night” or, as my sons call it: “Guys Night”. Almost every Thursday I cook dinner for the guys; she cleans up and occasionally reminds us to keep it down after somebody rolls a critical against a BBEG.

Myself? I’m happy as hell because I really rolled a critical success when I asked her to marry me and she said yes.

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Written by Darkwarren

Matt W., aka Darkwarren, has been roleplaying ever since his older brother introduced him to the red box set when he was 7 years old. Since then he has game-mastered SSDC’s Battleords of the Twenty-third Century, WEG’s Shadowrun and Star Wars, and of course Dungeons & Dragons in a variety of forms. At thirty-four years old he takes turns on both sides of the screen with the group that he helped found in 2000 when 3.0 hit the stands and has met every week fairly regularly ever since. Currently they have been running a variety of the Paizo Adventure Path scenarios, so that’s his wheelhouse. He was almost famous when two of his adventures were green-lighted for possible publication right before Paizo relinquished the rights to publish Dungeon magazine.

Matt also has years if experience in improvisational comedy, fiction, and non-fiction writing. He is currently working and studying to attain a master’s degree in theology, to enhance his career as a religious studies teacher. Lastly, his greatest passion is his family, especially the three sons and dog that he shares with his wife in upstate New York.

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